Pink for Girls, Blue for Boys... April 10 2018, 0 Comments
We would like to introduce another guest blogger, Sophie Holmes from Mumming and Modelling.
Sophie lives in Johannesburg with her husband, 2 baby girls and 2 dogs - she spends her days juggling being a model (involving lots of international travel and breast-pumping), keeping healthy and fit and parenting which keeps her very busy. Here is some insight from Sophie on baby clothing and colours.
Pink for Girls, Blue for Boys...
It's funny, isn't it, the way clothes work. For those of us old enough to dress ourselves, clothes become an extension of our personalities - they're often the very first impression people have of us. Even people who claim not to care, and who claim they only choose clothes for practicality, chose the blue shirt over the green for a reason. Maybe the blue brings out their eyes more...
But babies don't have that luxury. What babies wear automatically becomes a further extension of their parents' style. Some babies wear blimey, designer clobber from day one. Some babies have mounds of the same baby grow all in one colour. Some boy babies wear all blue, and some girl babies wear all pink.
But, and here's the big but, not ALL girl babies wear pink and boy babies blue. This strange notion of dressing each sex in a separate colour is fairly modern, happening only after the middle of the last century, but now it is widely accepted as the norm.
I adore pink and blue. Bizarrely (or not, I don't know how much nature vs nurture applies in this situation) my eldest daughter's favourite colours are the same as mine - blue, pink and yellow. But both of my girls have been dressed more, as babies, in blue and yellow than they ever have been in pink.
I don't have one specific reason for this. And I love the occasional splash of pink in a baby's wardrobe, like the beautiful Kapas vest I received, or my favourite pair of Esprit joggers that both my girls have worn. But I don't see the need to dress my girls all in pink just to somehow prove to people that they are girls. They have vaginas, I birthed them - unless they decide otherwise when they're older, they are female, and dressing them in pink isn't going to change that. As a woman, I don't see them having anything to prove. I'll dress them in cute outfits, regardless of whether they scream masculine or feminine.
What does confuse me, however, is the amount of people that take this as some sort of wrongdoing on my part. I've had so many shocked and amazed people (generally women - I think clothes generally 'matter' more to women) when I tell them that my baby, dressed in a onesie with blue, red, yellow, green and purple stripes is a girl. I even had one woman proceed to tell me, co-conspiratorially that she dressed her three daughters in 'more boyish clothes' because she was disappointed not to have a boy. I've written before about gender disappointment, and it is definitely not something I've ever struggled with!
My dressing of my baby is an extension of my own style, yes. But I don't believe that makes me somehow wrong in how I dress them, or that it shows I never wanted girls (I did, by the way - I grew up with two sisters and all female pets. I had no issues, ever, about not having a boy yet, or if I never have a boy). I believe that this part of my personality that is subconsciously showing, shows that I don't think my girls HAVE to be 'girly' to show their femininity. They have their whole lives to do that in their own way - I'm not about to set that example, so young, that they have to be pink and frilly to qualify.
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